The Need to Know
Letter to editor by Alfia del Vecchio
(New York Times, March 21, 1996)
To the Editor:
As an adult adoptee lucky enough to have found my birth parents, I have compassion for
those adoptees who have little chance of finding their biological roots because of the
injustice of closed records (front page, March 18). It is telling that it is adoptive parents
who are lobbying against opening records, not adoptees and birth parents.
My parents are those who reared me. This does not erase the fact that I wanted to know
about my biological heritage, medical history, traits that "run in the family", and so on.
Now that I know these things I am more at peace with myself and with starting a family of
my own.
Regarding state registries, most require that both biological parents register as well as the
adoptee and both adoptive parents before any information may be released. The
likelihood that all five will register is slim, considering the requirement that the birth father
participate. Adoptees and birth parents may be afraid of disrupting each other's lives, but
this does not mean that they have no yearning to know what happened to the other.
Copyright 1996, New York Times
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